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 If we were tempted to change the message of the Bible at any point today because of the change of
cultural norms and standards, it would be the message that stands at the head of this article.  The National
Organization for Women (N.O.W.) does not rally for husbands to stop loving their wives.  The women's
movement challenge's the Bible's calling for women to be subject to their husbands.  Culture says, "Women
are equal" or "Women need not submit to their husbands" or "Women have the same responsibilities."  So
culture says, "Let's change the message of the Bible."  And churches are falling like dominoes.

 God's Word says, "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  For the
husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church" (Ephesians 5:22,23).  Here, like
nowhere else, the message of God's Word is under attack.  Committees for women are appearing at
astounding rates, and every biblical rule is reduced to a cultural or social oddity.

 But God's Word is not dated.  The culture of the day did not rule the Bible's teaching.  Apostle
Paul was not a chauvinistic bachelor.  His writing in Ephesians, as all the rest of the Bible's teaching, was
written under the reliable guidance of God's Spirit, and is based on both the creation of the human race and
the salvation of the church.  "For Eve was not created first" Paul says in the first letter to Timothy, "but the
man" (2:13).  That's creation.  "As the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own
husbands . . ." (Eph. 5:24).  That's salvation.  God's word comes in every age to the wives, "Be subject to
your husband."

 Sometimes we misinterpret this, with disastrous results.  Some suppose that when a wife subjects
herself to her husband, she becomes a nothing, to be treated as a servant - she may never open her mouth,
never offer a suggestion, much less ever question or criticize her husband's behavior.  This may be the
Eastern or Islamic culture, but it surely is not the Biblical picture.  Christ certainly does not treat us in this
way.  Yet some Christian's husbands treat their wives as though this were the case.  If they do, it only shows
their own insecurity, their own failure to love their wives.  We should read what Proverbs 31 says about a
godly, virtuous woman.

 Generally, submission is an attitude of heart and walk of life in which we put ourselves under the
authority and rule of another, whether children to parents, citizens to government, employees to employers,
or wives to husbands.

 When the book of Ephesians teaches the woman's submission, it does that by comparing it to the
Church's relation to Jesus Christ.  In doing that, it points out several characteristics of submission that help
us to identify it as true:

 It is COMPLETE.  There is no area in which the Church is not subject to Jesus Christ.  It's not true
that the Church says, "In matters of doctrine we will submit to Jesus, but in matters of practice, we will do
our own thing."  It is not true that the Church may say, "At certain times we will submit to Jesus, but at
other times, we are free."  In all things and at all times She is subject to Christ.  So for the wife to say, "I am
going to submit to my husband when he is around, but not when he is gone," or "I will be subject as long as
he gives me what I want, as long as he is nice to me" is to disobey Jesus.  He said, "So let the wives be
(subject) to their own husbands in everything" (Ephesians 5:24).

 That raises a problem, though, when the husband is not only mean, but tells the wife to do
something that Jesus forbids.  What then?  The Bible does not say, "Obey in everything."  It says, "Be
subject in everything."  With the same reverent attitude that we would have it we would have to disobey a
king, she would say, "I cannot obey you in this matter."  Submission does not always necessarily require
obedience, but does require a calm, prayerful, and peaceful spirit.  That points out that submission is:

 FROM THE HEART.  Throughout the Bible, God calls His people to give Him their heart.  He
did not and does not want outward worship only, but especially inward worship.  "Rend your heart and not
your garments" was the cry of the prophets.  Filled with God's grace, the Church obeys the Lord from the
heart, from a love for Christ, from a heart pulsating with a feeling for His Lordship.  This is the behavior of
a godly wife to her husband.  It is not just outward as some make it.  But, as Peter says in his letter, "let it be
that hidden man of the heart" (I Peter 3:4).  So the only marriage that will have this is a marriage where the
husband and wife have had "heart transplants" by the Holy Spirit of Christ.

 Submission is VOLUNTARY.  The Church is not subject to Christ because She is forced against
Her will, but is such because of the wonderful grace of Jesus to change Her from a rebel to a beautiful Wife
(see Psalm 110:3).  So the wife does not submit only because she must, but willingly.  Why?  Because:

 Submission also PROCEEDS FROM LOVE.  Does the Church love Christ?  Of course!  And out
of that love comes the Church's submission that is willing, voluntary, from the heart, and complete.  God
calls women to love their husbands (Titus 2:4).  And out of that love comes a beautiful subjection.

The main objection raised against this teaching is that it degrades the honor of the woman, makes them
"nothings."  then it must be asked, kindly, was it degrading for His honor when Jesus subjected Himself to
His parents (Luke 2:51)?  Jesus was God Himself Who willingly put Himself under two of His lowly
creatures.  This is no way degraded His honor or made Him inferior.  And if Jesus could submit without
giving up a speck of His dignity, so can wives.  But we should also be asked, "Does the Church lose Her
dignity when She submits to Christ?  Does it detract from Her beauty, Her honor, Her "churchness" to give
Herself wholly to Him?  Of course not.  In fact, is not it exactly this that makes the Church a beautiful
Bride?  It is!  It's a beautiful woman who places herself under the authority of her husband:  willingly and
from the heart.

 When the Church is subject to Christ, there is also freedom, there is unspeakable bliss for Her.
And although the world cannot understand it, this is the freedom, this is the joy, this is the bliss of the
Christian wife!

 As with the calling of husbands to sacrifice themselves for their wives in love, this calling for the
wives is so difficult - really, impossible.  The possibility for women to live as Christ calls them is only by
the power of Christ's grace, which He gives richly to those who fear Him.

 In Jesus Christ is deliverance from our natural rebellion.  In His work is forgiveness for our
failures in the past.  And for the present, in Christ there is a power to overcome a sinful nature, to become
the kind of wife God wills women to be.  There is power in Christ.  This exalts the church and honors our
great God.