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There has never been such an insidious attack on the family
as the attack being launched on the
family's children. Not the upbringing of the children, although
that is a problem, too, but the birth and
place of children in the family are under attack. How are
we to view children? Are they only a nuisance?
Are they a blessing? A curse? Today, increasingly, there
is pressure on couples not to have children, or at
least as few as possible. There are so many means not to have
children, means that the devil uses to prevent
the church's children from being born, it makes one's head swim.
What should Christians think about this?
What should our attitude be towards having children? Who,
actually, are our children?
When the Bible praises children, it does not mean to say
that children are essential in marriage.
There are some who so emphasize children that they over-emphasize
them. But this view harms those in the
church from whom God has withheld children. Apart from children,
marriage is complete and blessed, a
reflection of the relation between Christ and His Church.
Even so, we must understand that children are the heritage
of the Lord, the gift of the covenant
God to His church. It is implied in Psalm 127 and 128, and
in the rest of the Bible, that God's people are
called to bring forth children; and it is expressed in these Psalms
that children - many children - are a
blessing. Yet many are tempted not to bring forth children.
In spite of the fact that far fewer infants die,
there are fewer children per family today than ever before in the
history of the world.
Why? Unbelievable pressures are being put on parents
not to bear children. Socially, there are
pressures. Children "tie a mother down, interfere with a career,"
"hinder fulfillment." Today in the grocery
store, a mother with a few children in tow is not complimented,
but criticized. Planned Parenthood
advertises and lobbies until it becomes a way of thinking that one
or two children is ideal. "The fewer
children, the better reared" is a philosophy of which the Chinese
are reaping the bitter fruit. We are told the
philosophy is true.
There are pressures from the government to limit the size
of our families for world population
control. Regularly, it seems, Ann Landers reports the urgency
of control.
Probably the greatest pressure is financial. Although
our generation is better off than any other,
this pressure is more real today than ever before - in part, because
our standard of living is so high (what
was considered a luxury 50 years ago is a necessity), and for Christians,
the high cost of Christian school
tuition seems to skyrocket. The conclusion is, "We'll not
have children," or "We'll have one or two."
But this is man's reasoning, purely self-centered.
What do I want? What's good for me? How will
this benefit me? And man's reasoning does not bring blessing.
For us, God's word is decisive. The difference between
a Christian and a non-Christian
perspective is seen vividly here. For unbelievers, the question
begins and ends with self. For Christians,
the question begins and ends with God. Our marriages and families
are not for our sakes, but God's. And
we may not answer the hard questions about marriage (and the question
of children is a hard question!) by
considering how we feel at the moment, or by how much pressure the
world puts on to conform to their
standards. We must look to God's Word.
God's Word says, "Bear children." Genesis 1:28 ("Be
fruitful and multiply") is God's powerful
word of blessing that gave Adam and Eve the gift of sex, and is
the command to bring forth children by it.
This was God's will "from the beginning." The New Testament
carries on the same thinking. I Timothy
2:15 says that after the fall, the normal path on which women find
their salvation is the path of childbearing.
Theirs is not the calling to take leadership positions in the church,
but to serve the church in rearing the
church's children at home. I Timothy 5:14 makes plain that
God's will for younger women is that they
"marry, bear children, guide the house, (and, in that way), give
none occasion to the adversary to speak
reproachfully." This is God's will for us today.
We bear children, not only because we like children, but
because God calls His people: "Bring
forth my children." So, the couple that marries and says,
"We don't want children," is a couple that lives in
disobedience to God's will.
But God motivates His people to obey this command by showing
us that children are a blessing.
Although some consider children only a nuisance, misery and grief,
and even appeal to Genesis 3:16, God's
Word says children are a blessing. Genesis 3:16 does not teach
that children are a curse, but that bringing
them forth is chastisement for godly women: as a result of
the fall, the pain of childbearing increased and
(possibly) the frequency increased. But the chastisement is
not childbearing, but the sorrows connected
with it. Besides, the entire Old Testament speaks a different
language than that children are a curse. Psalm
127 says, "Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord, and the fruit
of the womb is his reward . . . Happy is the
man whose quiver is full of them."
Children are a blessing. Many children are a blessing.
Every child is a blessing to believing
parents. (This is certainly not to say that every child will
be a Christian! But every child is a gift, a blessing
of God.) The 12th child is a blessing. The deformed
child is a blessing. The difficult child is a blessing.
A
burden? No doubt! Difficult? Oh, yes. Humanly
impossible? Certainly! But a blessing nevertheless,
of
God.
Why are they a blessing? Again, not because they are
all elect. This would be the height of
presumption, to say nothing about contradicting Romans 9.
But God is normally pleased to gather His
children from the children of believing parents. This is why
Psalm 127 says, "Lo, children are an heritage
of the Lord, and the fruit of the womb is his reward."
In addition, children are a blessing in that they are weapons
in the armory of God to protect the
spiritual heritage of the Christian family of faith. "As arrows
are in the hand of a mighty man; so are
children of the youth." Reared as straight as arrows, they
are shot out into the battle of faith, fit to do war
with the enemy. Pray for this kind of children, who will also
sit and "speak with the enemies in the gate,"
giving account of their faith and the glory of their God.
Is it any wonder the devil hates the church's children (see
Revelation 12) and is such an advocate
of birth control. Or, if he cannot prevent their conception,
he will destroy them before they see the light of
day. The devil knows that children, many children, are the
strength of the church.
(Understanding this, the couple asking about birth control
will be guided by these principles: (1)
Children are a blessing of God: Ps 127,128, etc. (2) Many
children are a blessing of God: Ps 127:5. (3)
Women are saved through childbearing: I Timothy 5:14.
So, keeping in mind the spiritual, physical, and
emotional capabilities of the husband and wife, they will have as
many children as they can. Their quiver
will be full.)
Many years ago in the Old Testament, children were slaughtered
by their parents, sacrificed to
Moloch to worship the idol. We shudder to think of it.
Today, children are sacrificed to the idol god
"money" or the idol god "time" or the idol god "vacation" or the
idol god "career" or "fulfillment" or
whatever his name may be. Let God's people hear His call to
bring forth children.
This is not to say that there are not many sorrows in motherhood.
There is the physical toil and
pain of giving birth. There is the physical and psychological
burden of rearing them. The sorrow is great,
according to Genesis 3:16. In a certain sense, the mother
gives her life away for her children. God does not
take away the burden.
What is the solution? Where is the joy that Psalm 127
speaks of? Is it to take off the yoke,
unshoulder the burden? Or is it to seek grace for help in
this time of need as Christian parents have done
for 6,000 years? There it is! Faced with sorrows, we
are pointed by Scripture to the grace of Jesus Christ
to bear the burden and perform the labor. Jesus Christ is
a sympathetic High Priest whose own large family
qualifies Him to understand.
Parents, be encouraged. God is pleased to build His
church from our children. This is the joy that
swallows up the sorrows, makes the pain and toil worthwhile.
Children are "an heritage of the LORD."
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